Will I ever Know What Is the Right Answer???
So, I've been killing myself trying to figure out what to do with childcare!!! I didn't think I would be so wishy-washy about it and it is driving me and S nuts!!! At one point I told him to just make the decision because I can't do it!
So B right now is in day.care. I like the day.care--S on the other hand doesn't have any opinion because he still to this day have to visit it and introduce himself to the staff. B seems happy when he is there...although he is only 7 months old so I am pretty sure he doesn't even know what is going on. The facilities are clean, the staff are really nice and they LOVE him there! This I know for sure, there are days when I pick him up that he is not in the room because one of the other teachers kidnapped him and is taking him for a stroll or something!
So you are probably wondering what is the problem?? Well, S and I are a little gun shy because of what happened to him in Chi.ca.go. He was going to a home.day.care when I went back to work. The lady was super nice and was very loving to B. The problem was that she wasn't very strict about the sick policy or should I say there really was no sick policy. The last day B was there one of the moms said that her daughter had a 104 fever the night before!! S and I just looked at each other and I wanted to scream "what is your daughter doing here??!!??" Well we all know what happened to B 2 days after that.
So after this really horrible experience, S and I think that a nan.ny will be a better option for us--he will be home and the chances of him getting sick is smaller. I know we can't prevent him from getting sick, but if he is not around a lot of people, the chances are less (actually S want someone to tell him that B will never be really sick again and end up in the hospital-we all know that will never happen). So we started interviewing some na.nny and we found a couple that we really like. You would think by now we would have hired someone and the discussion is over. But there is one issue--S and I believe that being around other children is the best environment for him. We only want a na.nny for a few months, maybe until he is about 15 mos old, when he is a little older and his body can stronger to fight germs. I like the day.care he is at right now and I would like for him to go there, but I have a feeling that if I pull him out now he won't be able to get a spot when we are ready to put him back next year. And the other big issue is that there are not a lot of day.care center where we live-so the waiting list can be long. They give priority to kids that are already in the system-understandable.
So the question is do we take the chance and pull him out? Or maybe we will like having a nan.ny so much we won't even attempt to put him back in day.care. And since we are only renting, who is to say that we will be living in this neighborhood in a year? two years? Maybe by the time we are ready we will be moving again and we will decide to stick with a na.nny(until we are settled) vs. day.care-why have him transition again? I feel like I am over analyzing this and I should just take a deep breath and stop thinking. Maybe what I need to do is just take this child.care thing one day at a time. Life could be different in 6 months--who knows. I should not worry what the people at day.care think of me or my decisions or if B will be forever barred from their school. Maybe I should just think about what is the best for him today and the rest will fall into place. Help!! Why is this issue so difficult.
So B right now is in day.care. I like the day.care--S on the other hand doesn't have any opinion because he still to this day have to visit it and introduce himself to the staff. B seems happy when he is there...although he is only 7 months old so I am pretty sure he doesn't even know what is going on. The facilities are clean, the staff are really nice and they LOVE him there! This I know for sure, there are days when I pick him up that he is not in the room because one of the other teachers kidnapped him and is taking him for a stroll or something!
So you are probably wondering what is the problem?? Well, S and I are a little gun shy because of what happened to him in Chi.ca.go. He was going to a home.day.care when I went back to work. The lady was super nice and was very loving to B. The problem was that she wasn't very strict about the sick policy or should I say there really was no sick policy. The last day B was there one of the moms said that her daughter had a 104 fever the night before!! S and I just looked at each other and I wanted to scream "what is your daughter doing here??!!??" Well we all know what happened to B 2 days after that.
So after this really horrible experience, S and I think that a nan.ny will be a better option for us--he will be home and the chances of him getting sick is smaller. I know we can't prevent him from getting sick, but if he is not around a lot of people, the chances are less (actually S want someone to tell him that B will never be really sick again and end up in the hospital-we all know that will never happen). So we started interviewing some na.nny and we found a couple that we really like. You would think by now we would have hired someone and the discussion is over. But there is one issue--S and I believe that being around other children is the best environment for him. We only want a na.nny for a few months, maybe until he is about 15 mos old, when he is a little older and his body can stronger to fight germs. I like the day.care he is at right now and I would like for him to go there, but I have a feeling that if I pull him out now he won't be able to get a spot when we are ready to put him back next year. And the other big issue is that there are not a lot of day.care center where we live-so the waiting list can be long. They give priority to kids that are already in the system-understandable.
So the question is do we take the chance and pull him out? Or maybe we will like having a nan.ny so much we won't even attempt to put him back in day.care. And since we are only renting, who is to say that we will be living in this neighborhood in a year? two years? Maybe by the time we are ready we will be moving again and we will decide to stick with a na.nny(until we are settled) vs. day.care-why have him transition again? I feel like I am over analyzing this and I should just take a deep breath and stop thinking. Maybe what I need to do is just take this child.care thing one day at a time. Life could be different in 6 months--who knows. I should not worry what the people at day.care think of me or my decisions or if B will be forever barred from their school. Maybe I should just think about what is the best for him today and the rest will fall into place. Help!! Why is this issue so difficult.
posted by MoMo at 2:26 PM
5 Comments:
I hated finding child care for my boys when I went back to work. It seems like no one was the same as mom or dad. Good luck. (Thanks for the kind words on my blog, made me feel a lot better)
I think you're right--life might be very different in 6 months. It's OK to go with what is right for now and worry about later, later. Good luck making your decision.
Yikes, sounds like a very difficult decision!
I hope you're settling in to life in CT and liking it more now.
It was good to hear from you -- thanks for the update
:-)
Arrrhhh! That's hard. I'm debating the same thing (haven't even popped the kid out yet) and don't know what's best.
Sorry I've got no great advice for you!!
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Just the beginning of a long list of tough parenting choices. Ugh.
I don't even have a child yet and I am worried about where to send him/her to school because our public school district sucks so badly.
You'll figure it all out as you go. Good Luck with this decision!
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